Hello,
My name is Lauren Alfieri. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Washington state who specializes in trauma and sex therapy. I am passionate about working with people to figure out what it means to be human, to be you, and to flourish in life and relationships. I value the diversity that is found in life when we are able to find healing and freedom from our pasts and step into the courageous art of living authentically. I find nature, creativity, playfulness, and relationships to be powerful forces to engage in the therapeutic process and enjoy incorporating them in my work however possible. My work with individuals and couples takes root in the beauty and complexity of us as relational beings - wired for connection and the yearning to truly live. I seek to build a compassionate, curious, and nonjudgmental space where we can work through challenges together and practice new ways of being that are aligned with who you are and free you to cultivate the life and relationships meant for you.
Therapeutic Approach
Self Alignment & Enrichment
This is a space for those seeking deeper connection with themselves—past, present, and future.
In this work, we begin with your story. Not just the facts of your life, but how you’ve come to make sense of them. Through narrative therapy, we explore the threads of your experiences—where you’ve been, where you are, and who you are becoming. Together, we make space for your full self to be seen and understood, not just through the lens of challenges, but through the resilience, values, and longings that live within you.
A central part of this process is learning how to recognize, understand, and work with all aspects of who you are. I utilize IFS (internal family systems) and polyvagal theory as we work towards building self integration, self acceptance, and agency. Part of this work may include dismantling shame narratives—stories of not being enough, being too much, or needing to earn your worth, etc. We work together to gently name these inherited beliefs and release what no longer serves you, reworking your understanding of who you are and how you relate to yourself and others.
We practice cultivating self-compassion and self-love—not as abstract ideals, but as skills rooted in curiosity, kindness, and self-honoring. This work supports you in moving from people-pleasing, perfectionism, or self-criticism into authenticity, courage, and connectedness.
Using various modalities and coaching to build embodied self-awareness, we support self-expansion—helping you align your doing with your being. Whether you’re navigating transitions, healing from old wounds, or seeking to live more fully in your truth, this work invites you to explore the fullness of who you are and the life you live with clarity, care, and intention.
This is not about fixing yourself—it’s about coming home to yourself.
Trauma Processing
Trauma can take many forms—whether it’s a single overwhelming event or something more ongoing and complex, like relational, systemic, or developmental trauma. While trauma doesn’t define who you are, it can leave deep imprints that affect your daily functioning, how you see yourself, and how you show up in your relationships, work, and sense of purpose.
Sometimes, trauma lives just beneath the surface—shaping patterns of self-protection, disconnection, or shame. It can influence your ability to trust, to feel safe in your body, or to fully engage with life. In therapy, we explore how these experiences have impacted you—not to relive them, but to create enough space and support to process what’s been held. With time and care, trauma can be placed in its rightful context: as something that happened to you, not something that needs to continue shaping how you experience the present or define who you are.
I draw on somatic-based practices that help you reconnect with your body, regulate your nervous system, and feel more rooted and present. I also incorporate EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and Lifespan Integration, two evidence-based modalities that work on a subconscious level to help integrate past experiences and align the mind, body, and heart.
Equally important in this work is building on your strengths. Healing is not just about what we move away from—it’s about what we move toward. Together, we’ll focus on building resilience, deepening self-trust, and cultivating your capacity for connection—with yourself and with others.
Relationships
Relationships shape how we experience ourselves, others, and the world. They influence our sense of safety, belonging, and identity. But past pain, trauma, or unmet needs can leave us feeling disconnected, reactive, or stuck in patterns that no longer serve us. Relational therapy offers a space to understand and reshape the ways you show up in connection—whether you’re coming to therapy as an individual or a couple. Relationships require both practical tools and emotional insight to help you show up with more clarity, confidence, and connection.
The way you’ve learned to relate—whether through early attachment, cultural conditioning, or trauma—impacts how you trust, communicate, and stay connected (or disconnect) under stress. Relational therapy helps you reclaim agency, safety, and choice in how you relate today, and learn how to repair ruptures and create more secure, enduring bonds.
I draw on interpersonal neurobiology and attachment theory to integrate relational insight (exploring your patterns, needs, and past experiences), embodied awareness (understanding your nervous system’s responses in real time), conflict navigation (supporting connection through regulation and repair), and in-session coaching (practicing new relational skills with support and reflection in real time).
Relational therapy can also be a space to cultivate new, enriching dynamics for yourself and your relationships. The art of learning how to play together, connect intimately, and feel safe in vulnerability is just as important as addressing the barriers that get between us.
Whether you’re navigating conflict, rebuilding trust, or wanting to show up more fully in your relationships, relational therapy can provide the help you need and the safe space to begin creating more enriching relationships in the here-and-now.